First Date

Since approximately mid-September, I've been chatting with someone online. I met her on the one dating app I was using at the time (I'm still on one but I'm probably signing off from it this week).

This girl has been my best candidate for a date since we first started talking. She's relatively close compared to the others (less than an hour), we have similar interests, she can actually hold a conversation, she didn't go straight for sex talk, and she didn't ghost me within days. Already head and shoulders above all the rest.

When I decided to delete the one app, she was the only one on there with whom I was still conversing. I gave her my number so we could continue chatting off app. Not expecting her to follow me off app (I've been very unimpressed by lots of people on there), I was delighted when she began texting me.

This meant that we could exchange just more than words. This meant funny memes, gifs, pictures and videos (not dirty ones either, you heathens 😉).

For a while, she had financial issues but said that "as soon as I have money again, I'm asking you out." I was instantly smitten lol.

I should mention that they know almost everything about me: being genderfluid and pansexual, both my feminine and masculine sides, being a dad, living at home. I've been super open with her and she's been fully accepting. That's made it incredibly easy to trust and feel comfortable with her.

So, when she told me a couple of weeks ago that she had found a new job, I was overjoyed. I knew that it was only a matter of time before we got to meet. I decided to go fishing with her in a way.

The bait was that I was planning to travel to her area to watch Kill Bill: The Whole Bloody Affair (once again, the main movies in which I'm interested won't play in my local theater. Ugh). She took it; hook, line and sinker. 😁

She said that I could stop by at a local bar to hang out with her either before or after the movie (I'm guessing the prospect of a 4.5 hour movie was a little too much for a first date lol). Since it was only playing at 7:40 that night, we decided to meet up at 6 PM. That would give us about an hour or so before I had to leave for the movie. Plenty of time to get to know each other better.

I was super excited as Friday turned into Saturday...

And then the weather reports came in: snow and tons of it.

I spent Saturday getting ready (as described in my last post) and hoped that things wouldn't be as bad as I thought.

She messaged me around 4 to see if we were still on. I told her that we were even though I decided to skip the movie (the weather was supposed be worse the later it got). This way, we also didn't have a time limit on how long we could hang out. She told me to be careful and she'd see me in a few hours.

After I finished my personal grooming project (to varying degrees of success depending on how one looks at such things), I got dressed as fast as I could and put on my makeup and wig.

I put on my black and white long sleeve shirt and leggings; hoping that they would help keep me warm (they didn't). I also went for my "I'm not the one who's wrong. What's wrong is the world" T-shirt overtop, my black coat and my black boots with the skulls holding the roses. I topped it off with my favorite wig: black with red streaks. I was ready to slay.

I should also mention that I put on my usual choker, three skull bracelets (colored red, white, and black) as well as my mood necklace. Usually, the pendant is colored purple whenever I'm not wearing it. As soon as I put it around my neck, it turned red. This means "love or affection." I was very excited about meeting her. 😊

As expected, the roads were terrible but at least doable. Instead of just under an hour, the trip took me about an hour and fifteen minutes. I had my phone hooked up to my car's Bluetooth, so I could respond to her messages on the way there via voice chat. Definitely has to keep both hands on the wheel that night.

While I'd driven through her hometown before, this was the first time I'd driven through the "main business district." Oh my goodness, was it beautiful.

Every storefront was lit up perfectly. The light poles with brightly colored holiday lights. Carolers dressed as Santa and Mrs. Claus were walking the streets. The main square had a tree lit up to beautiful perfection. It was like a Norman Rockwell painting come to life.

The bar had live music that night, which made parking difficult (no off-street parking unfortunately). However, my driving instructor would've been proud as I dominated parallel parking that night.

I then made a grand entrance into the bar without even trying: literally everyone looked up to see me when I walked in. I didn't think I could draw that much attention.

The bar itself billed itself as a brewing company. This meant they had craft style beers and cocktails on the menu. I enjoyed the look and vibe of the place. Think of a rustic bar meets a coffee shop. The staff was super friendly too.

She had gotten us a table and waved me over as soon as she noticed me. After complimenting me on my purse, she summed up the situation perfectly: "fair warning: I'm feeling pretty nervous and awkward at the moment." I laughed and assured her that we were on the same page.

She looked terrific. Long, dark hair with glasses hiding her dark eyes. A flowing, multicolored top with a three layered necklace. I'll be honest: I didn't look too closely at her pants but they were some type of dark slacks. I was too busy staring into her eyes or listening to her talk about her life.

We then spent the next nearly three hours just talking while enjoying our drinks (I went light and only had one vodka cranberry and one Coke on the side. She paid for them). As we broke the ice, I just continued to feel more and more comfortable with her. It was like I'd known her for years.

This was the first time in a long time where I was on a date and was fully invested in everything the other person had to say. She's super into things like video games (especially Warhammer), Dungeons and Dragons, Magic The Gathering, board games and nerd culture in general. While I haven't been involved with all of those things, I was enthralled by how much she knew about each thing and the lore that goes into each of those topics. I was seriously ready to sit and listen about her DnD campaign all night.

If it weren't for the weather. Ugh!

Since she knew I had a drive ahead of me getting home. We called it a night around 9 PM. We both mentioned how we had such a wonderful time together with her talking about a possible get together with her friends on New Year's Eve. She said I was absolutely invited if it comes together and how I could present however I was comfortable that night.

I hope that happens because I'm SO looking forward to seeing her again.

We closed out the night with a hug. I went for the more feminine hug (two arms up and over the name of the other person's neck). However, she went for the wide hug and sort of blocked off my one arm. We laughed and hugged before saying goodnight.

Obviously, it's too early to tell but I hope that this first date is the beginning of something. She seems so kind and so much fun that I really want to spend as much time with her as she can stand.

Only time will tell...