Love Language

Something trendy for couples in recent years have been to take an online test to see what is your "Love Language."

Essentially, they ask you several questions and decide which of the five categories to which you belong based on your answers. This is to decide how best your partner can love and understand you.

While you get around 25 questions (depending on which website you use), they usually boil down to these main five:

"Would you like your partner to perform an activity for you?"

"Would you appreciate your partner listening to what you have to say?"

"Would you like to receive a gift from your partner?"

"Would you like to spend one on one time with your partner?"

"Would you like physical contact with your partner?"

They use some form of each of these questions and match them up against each other (such as would you prefer a gift or a kiss). After you answer each question presented, it gives you your archetype love language.

Since you can take this test on an endless number of websites, I decided to take the Love Language test on three different sites. Just to test for any variables.

Very first one I checked said that my love language is Words of Affirmation (I appreciate being told how much I matter, how great I'm doing and how much my partner loves me). I went to check the rest of my results but would've had to pay for that. Next!

The next two down the list presented nearly identical results: Physical Touch (I appreciate being held, caressed and kissed by my partner). These two sites showed me the rest of my results for free and Words of Affirmation did appear as my second option.

So, I can safely say that Physical Touch and Words of Affirmation on my main two love languages. I appreciate being physically close to someone and having them say how much they love me.

I chose those options moreso than the others for these reasons:

Whenever someone has to do something for me (like a certain task I've been putting off) I'm appreciative but feel bad that they felt the need to do it for me.

Spending quality time with someone is nice but there are still times when I enjoy being on my own; no matter how much I care about the other person.

Gifts are great but can also be expensive. Plus, love is about much more than money.

So, now any prospective suitors know the way to my heart. 😉

While I do feel that the results can be subjective depending on which questions you get, I still think it's a fun way to discover details about yourself. Don't worry about which sites you use as there are more out there than I could count. Just make sure it's free. No sense in paying for your results on this.

After all, it's just love.





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