How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Tolerate People on Dating Apps

Not only being out of the dating game for so long but also embracing myself more on dating apps as Trixie has really opened my eyes.

Dating has absolutely changed over the past two decades. Whether for the better or not is entirely in the eye of the beholder.

For instance, it's way more acceptable to be not only LGBTQ but to be polyamorous.

For those who don't know, polyamorous is where you don't limit yourself to just one partner. This can bring up ethical issues if everyone isn't aware or accepting.

This leads to another term: polycule. Going off the polyamorous route, polycule is where you do have multiple partners and everyone understands and accepts the situation. In fact, I've been surprised how many times on the apps I've found someone who said they were "partnered but dating separately." These days, it seems old fashioned to be monogamous.

Granted, I am old fashioned in that sense and wish for monogamy. However, I'm also willing to explore safely. While nothing has come of it yet, I have engaged with several people who identified as polyamorous and were looking to add people to their polycule. If I do end up in such a situation, I guess I can say that I crossed something off of my bucket list.

As mentioned, there's quite the representation for the LGBTQ community on dating apps (or at least the one I'm using). I've seen just about every group represented on there.

Gay, straight, cisgender, transgender, genderfluid, nonbinary, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, demisexual, and the list goes on and on. I also just realized that this would've made for a very fun bingo card.

Also, the main realization I've made is this: boys are gross.

Whether cis, trans, straight, gay, bi, or anything else, men on the apps have to be the most sexualized creatures I've come across.

The worst part is there have been several in which I were interested. They just refused to take things slow. So, to anyone fitting that description: if you find me on one of the apps and can't control yourself long enough for us to get to know each other then simply move on. Don't like my profile, don't reach out to me, don't message me. Just don't.

I know I look cute as Trixie but I'm not a whore and I'm not bedding down with you instantly. You need to earn my intimacy. 😉

That'll do it for me this week. I'll talk to you all on Monday. Have a great weekend and a Happy Halloween, my loves!

-Trixie 😘❤️

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